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bluidkiti 06-01-2023 05:55 AM

Today's Thought - June
 
June 1

Truth

Great is truth. Fire cannot burn it nor water drown it.

~Alexandre Dumas

The importance of truth is stressed often during our Twelve Step discussions. Truth is the foundation of all knowledge. It is the standard by which all our actions are judged. Truth can never be bought. There is no happy medium in truth. All things must be either true or false. Unless an activity begins with truth, it will be impossible to progress successfully. The advice "truth or silence" warns us of the possible harm from hurriedly made statements. Love and kindness must accompany truth even if we, as the giver or receiver, are pained by the truth.

Our program teaches us that truth can do no more than present things as they really exist.

For me to work my program successfully, I must always work from a foundation of truth.

Today's reading is from the book Easy Does It: A Book of Daily Twelve Step Meditations*

bluidkiti 06-02-2023 06:20 AM

June 2

The grace of God is courtesy.

~Hilaire Belloc

"When all else fails, courtesy will prevail" is a time-honored saying. And our daily experiences bear witness to its truth. It's not a major decision to choose kindness in our actions, and there's nothing very difficult about offering sincere attention to another's conversation. And yet, the frequency with which so many of us dishonor people by rudeness, interruptions, and mean-spiritedness would suggest courtesy is indeed very elusive and difficult.

Our self-centeredness prevents our courteousness. We are often so concerned with how others are supposed to treat us, that we deprive ourselves of the joy of simply offering someone an unexpected kindness.

How fortunate we are that God doesn't hold back comfort until we meet certain standards. And how fortunate that we can discover the rich rewards of acting according to God's will by the smallest acts of kindness toward the people around us.

My courtesy will prevail today.

Today's reading is from the book In God's Care: Daily Meditations on Spirituality in Recovery*

bluidkiti 06-03-2023 06:26 AM

June 2

Solitude is my time to talk to myself. Without it I get dull like a bird without a song.

~Abby Warman

In solitude we rest and are rejuvenated. Solitude is a moment alone, with our Higher Power as our only companion. Why must we have solitude? Many of us came to this program having been isolated from others, perhaps for years. But being isolated and being alone with God are far different experiences. In our isolation, we often dwelled on the injustices we suffered. Over a drink or a drug, we wallowed in self-pity. That wasn't solitude. We weren't listening for the voice of our Higher Power. Now, in our alone time, we can hear it.

Withdrawing from the bustle around us for a few moments with God will quickly enlighten us. We will save much valuable time when we follow the suggestions, the feelings, we get from our visit with God in the quiet spaces of the day.

I will sing to God's tune today if I take time to listen for it. In my quiet time I will quiet my mind and listen to my heart.

Today's reading is from the book A Woman's Spirit: More meditations for Women*

bluidkiti 06-04-2023 06:49 AM

June 3

Life is what happens to you when you're busy making other plans.

~John Lennon

We have plans and dreams about our future. We hope to accomplish certain goals in our lives. Maybe we want to buy a house or get a promotion. We have a future with our life partner, or we are looking for a life partner. But life is never so cut-and-dried that we should expect everything to go according to our plans. We live better and healthier if we hold loosely to our anticipations; the path we walk in reality is never the exact path we envisioned. Life is an adventure in which sometimes things turn out even better than we hoped, and sometimes we have to cope with great disappointments.

Surprisingly, after we deal with the unexpected, we are often grateful for what it brought or what we learned. How often have we heard someone say he is grateful for the way an illness changed his life, or the way a great loss taught him to be a better person? Perhaps today we have to face a difficult challenge or manage a problem that we would never have chosen. The difficulty that we face is part of our unique life journey, and if we allow it to, it will guide us toward becoming a better person.

Today, I will make my plans and still be willing to deal with whatever happens.

Today's reading is from the book Stepping Stones: More Daily Meditations for Men*

bluidkiti 06-05-2023 05:37 AM

June 5

AA Thought for the Day

If you can take your troubles as they come, if you can maintain your calm and composure amid pressing duties and unending engagements, if you can rise above the distressing and disturbing circumstances in which you are set down, you have discovered a priceless secret of daily living. Even if you are forced to go through life weighed down by some unescapable misfortune or disease and yet live each day as it comes with poise and peace of mind, you have succeeded where most people have failed. You have wrought a greater achievement than a person who rules a nation. Have I achieved poise and peace of mind?
Meditation for the Day

Take a blessing with you wherever you go. You have been blessed, so bless others. Such stores of blessings are awaiting you in the months and years that lie ahead. Pass on your blessings. Blessing can and does go around the world, passed on from one person to another. Shed a little blessing in the heart of one person. That person is cheered to pass it on, and so God's vitalizing, joy-giving message travels on. Be a transmitter of God's blessings.
Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may pass on my blessings. I pray that they may flow into the lives of others.

Today's reading is from the book Twenty-Four Hours a Day: A Spiritual Resource with Practical Applications for Daily Life*

bluidkiti 06-06-2023 05:00 AM

June 6

Self-image sets the boundaries of individual accomplishment.

~Maxwell Maltz

The way we think about ourselves determines how we behave and who we become. If Eileen believes she is good at baseball, she will swing the bat more confidently and catch fly balls more easily. And her extra effort will generally pay off. At math, Steve thinks he's a whiz and it makes him proud. He studies so he'll continue to be a whiz.

The image we have of ourselves is like the blueprint the contractor follows when building a house. When we see ourselves sad or angry, our behavior and personality will match it. When we see ourselves withdrawn and afraid, we seem to avoid activities that involve others. How wonderful that we can change our behavior and thus ourselves by changing the picture we carry in our minds.

Do I have a good picture of myself today?

Today's reading is from the book Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families*

bluidkiti 06-07-2023 06:07 AM

June 7

Time is nature's way of keeping everything from happening at once.

~Unknown

Time always seems to pass too slowly or too quickly for us. We want the fun times to last longer. We want the boring or painful times to go faster. But time goes at just the right pace. Any faster, and we wouldn't have enough time to learn as we go. Any slower, and we'd lose interest. In our program, we learn to respect the pace of time. We let go, and we let time go at its own pace. We call this patience.
Prayer for the Day

Higher Power, thank you for patience. Help me look forward to the future without rushing. Help me live fully in the here and now. Help me make today a good one by doing Your will.
Action for the Day

I'll list five ways I can use time to be healthier in body, mind, and spirit. Which of these five things can I do today?

Today's reading is from the book Keep it Simple: Daily Meditations for Twelve Step Beginnings and Renewal*

bluidkiti 06-08-2023 05:08 AM

June 8

Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.

~Helen Keller

When a man looks at his life and at the lives of others, it is clear that pain is part of life. We cannot escape this tragic truth; our growth and our wholeness must include it because our recovery stresses honesty. In our old way of living, we may have been bitter. Many of us felt sorry for ourselves. Some of us cursed God and wasted time in our self-centeredness, thinking life was especially unfair to us. Life is not fair; it just is. It is left to us to choose how we will respond.

People's responses to life inspire us. We not only acknowledge the pain, but we see the heroic lives of others around us. They met their limitations and went forward with a willing spirit and faith. Today, we can be grateful for the progress we have made in overcoming our suffering. We have friends who give us the joy of human contact. We have choices and possibilities where we never saw them before. We have a growing self-respect as men.

I accept the reality of life, and I will respond with faith in the choices I make today.

Today's reading is from the book Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men*

bluidkiti 06-09-2023 06:05 AM

June 9

Going to meetings

Many of us have many problems: financial, legal, and emotional. If we asked fellow members for advice, they might well say, "Go to a meeting." Going to meetings is not just something we do in our spare time. Meetings are a way to find answers, get support, and generally maintain our recovery.

What kind of advice is that - "go to a meeting" - for practical problems? But it works! For other people, this would not work; but for those of us in recovery, it is the beginning of solutions to our problems. Meetings are not "spare time"; they’re critical "life time."

Am I making the most out of meetings?

Higher Power, help me develop faith in the fellowship and deep respect for meetings.

Today I will make plans to attend the meeting at…

Today's reading is from the book Day by Day: Daily Meditations for Recovering Addicts*

bluidkiti 06-10-2023 04:59 AM

June 10

Rebuilding Trust

In my first years in the Navy, I'd only call my parents to tell about my accomplishments. They didn't know about my drinking problem. But when I got sent to restriction, they couldn't get hold of me to let me know my grandfather was hospitalized. I finally had to tell them.

They both got tired of all the ups and downs after that, so it took a long time for them to trust me again. But after my third duty station and two more alcohol-related incidents, I finally got sober and made amends. They've seen the results. They see how, with God's grace, I’ve grown.

Today is amazing. Now we celebrate my sobriety together. Now we can talk about everything.

Today I am grateful that, in recovery, broken relationships can be healed. Destroyed trust can be rebuilt. Miracles can happen.

~Elora K., U.S. Navy, 1997–2007

Today's reading is from the book Leave No One Behind: Daily meditations for Military Service Members and Veterans in Recovery*

bluidkiti 06-11-2023 06:06 AM

June 11

Reflection for the Day

Many of us have had difficulty ridding ourselves of the ravages of guilt. In my own case, during the early days in the program, I either misunderstood certain of the Steps or tried to apply them too quickly and too eagerly. The result was that I increased my feelings of guilt and worthlessness, rather than freeing myself as the Steps intend. Soon, though, I became at least willing to forgive myself, and I made a new beginning. I undertook all the soul-searching and cleansing Steps in our program as they were intended to be taken, and not from a below-ground position of crippling hate and guilt. Have I made amends to myself?
Today I Pray

May I forgive myself as my Higher Power has forgiven me. May I know that if I am hanging on to an old satchel full of guilt, then I am not following the example my Higher Power has shown me. If my Higher Power, who has demonstrated forgiveness by leading me to this healing place, can forgive me, then so can I. May I not begrudge myself what a Higher Power has so generously offered.
Today I Will Remember

My Higher Power forgives; so must I.

Today's reading is from the book A Day at a Time: Daily Reflections for Recovering People*

bluidkiti 06-12-2023 05:53 AM

June 12

Surrendering to God's caring plan eases our walk today.

When first introduced to the idea that a Higher Power is in charge of our lives, the lives of our loved ones, and all the situations we've struggled so hard to control, we balk. We don't want to turn over the reins to anyone. After all, how can we be certain our loved ones will stop drinking if we quit pleading? Or who is going to make sure the children don't get into drugs if we aren't nagging them about their friends and their whereabouts all the time?

How lucky we are to have discovered, at last, the peace that comes with surrendering. There is a plan for our lives. There is a plan for our companion's life too. And for our friends' and associates' lives. No one of us has been left out of the divine plan. But we couldn't see this before. We were too intent on trying to run lives as though we were all-powerful. Now we can breathe easier, knowing God will take care of all those people we tried to manage but couldn't.

As Step Three suggests, I will turn my will and my life over to God today and enjoy these twenty-four hours.

Today's reading is from the book A Life of My Own: Meditations on Hope and Acceptance*

bluidkiti 06-13-2023 06:16 AM

June 13

Everyone has a talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark places where it leads.

~Erica Jong

Sometimes, when we're in the midst of working out a problem, creating something new, or attempting to make a major change in our behavior, we feel as if we’ve "hit a wall." The enthusiasm we felt at the beginning of the project, relationship, or recovery program seems to have evaporated. We wonder if we have the energy and inspiration to continue.

This is exactly the moment when we must hold on and persist in our efforts. Our fears of failure are like voices talking to us from the past. We can turn around and face them. We're different people now. We have a network of support we can draw upon. We have enough faith to persist, one day at a time, in what matters to us, even though we’re not sure of the outcome.

Our confidence and self-esteem are bolstered by our persistence. Our abilities grow as we refuse to let today's problems discourage us.

Today, I don't surrender to the voice of discouragement. I am persistent.

Today's reading is from the book Glad Day

bluidkiti 06-14-2023 05:53 AM

June 14

Commitment

As we walk through life, there are many things and people we may lose, or lose out on, if we are unwilling to commit. We need to make a commitment for relationships to grow beyond the dating stage, to have the home or apartment we want, the job we want, or the car we desire.

We must commit, on deep levels, to careers - to goals - to family, friends, recovery. Trying something will not enable us to succeed. Committing ourselves will. Yet, we need never commit before we are ready. Sometimes, our fear of commitment is telling us something.

We may not want to commit to a particular relationship, purchase, or career. Other times, it is a matter of our fears working their way out. Wait, then. Wait until the issue becomes clear.

Trust yourself. Ask your Higher Power to remove your fear of commitment. Ask God to remove your blocks to commitment. Ask God for guidance.

Ask yourself if you are willing to lose what you will not commit to. Then listen, quietly. And wait until a decision seems consistently right and comfortable.

We need to be able to commit, but we need never commit until we are ready. Trust that you will commit when you want to.

God, guide me in making my commitments. Give me the courage to make those that are right for me, the wisdom to not commit to that which does not feel right, and the patience to wait until I know.

Today's reading is from the book The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency*

bluidkiti 06-15-2023 06:12 AM

June 15

The truth shall make you free.

~From John 8:32

Some of us have been so angry for so long that we don't even know we're angry anymore. Much like the effect of prolonged hunger - over time, the perception of hungriness changes to a more generalized perception of sickness. We tend to blot out what doesn't get acknowledged or resolved. Or we translate it into something else.

Because good children didn't act out anger (or so we thought), we learned very early to turn anger into hurt. And there it may well have stayed for many years, mislabeled and unrecognized. As recovering adults, we are becoming aware that a hard core of anger is under all those layers of hurt feelings. We see now that it has come out sideways for years, bruising the people we love and damaging our relationships.

Thank God we're finally able to name the problem. Naming it is the first step to doing something about it.

I will strive to see the truth, no matter how disagreeable, and name it what it is.

Today's reading is from the book Days of Healing, Days of Joy: Daily Meditations for Adult Children*

bluidkiti 06-16-2023 05:26 AM

June 16

Finish each day and be done with it.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Often we want to carry the worries or the successes of today into tomorrow. As we put our heads on our pillows, we need to let go of today. Each new day needs to begin with a fresh mind. Each new day deserves our full attention. The purpose of the Tenth Step is to allow us to concentrate our energies on the present. Worries, past and future, scatter our energies. Step Ten helps us keep our energies focused and available for today.

Why is this important? It is only in the present that we can truly connect with others and our Higher Power. The present is our gateway to the eternal. Worries and even successes make us less able to step across this gateway into a better relationship with our Higher Power and others. We need to allow ourselves to travel light into tomorrow.
Prayer for the Day

Higher Power, help me live in the present. Help me develop more and more willingness to live in the moment.
Today's Action

Today I will use the Tenth Step to think about where I am with the world and change the things I can, let go of the things I need to, and recommit to living in the present.

Today's reading is from the book God Grant Me: More Daily Meditations from the Authors of Keep It Simple*

bluidkiti 06-17-2023 06:23 AM

June 18

And when I see you happy, well, it sets my heart free.
I'd like to be as good a friend to you as you are to me.

~Joni Mitchell

Friends are one of the greatest gifts of our recovery, and they come as a result of a life that's sane and manageable. It takes time and energy to make and keep good friends, but the rewards are worth it. To these special people we can gladly give our honesty, our fidelity, our trust, and our unconditional acceptance.

As friendship grows, we find ourselves more able to understand our friend's needs. Is there a child to be watched or a kitchen that needs cleaning? Can we listen empathetically, without judging, to whatever a friend is going through? When a friend is sick, are we ready to help out? Can we put aside our needs because a friend's need is greater at the moment than our own?

As our recovery helps us develop the skills it takes to be a good friend, we can let go and let our friendships develop naturally. Then we will be able to trust the bond of love between our friends and us.

I will call a friend today and let that person know how much he or she means to me.

Today's reading is from the book Answers in the Heart

bluidkiti 06-18-2023 05:37 AM

June 18

I would be honest, for there are those who trust me.

~Howard A. Walter

Some of those around us seem to see only the good in us. They trust and respect us, even when we ourselves may not feel we deserve it.

A young girl once talked about her grandfather. She said, "He was the only person in my life who saw the good in me." She mentioned that she sought to please her grandfather and not disappoint the trust which he placed in her. He brought out the best in her because of the way that he looked at her.

Each of us can be like this grandfather by focusing on the good in other people. We can use our spiritual eyes to see love, honesty, trustworthiness, and unselfishness in the heart of another. As we look for the good, we are doing our part to help create it.

Do I see the good in those around me right now?

Today's reading is from the book Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families*

bluidkiti 06-19-2023 06:20 AM

June 19

The Recovering Young

The program is a school in which we are all learners and all teachers regardless of age.

~Anonymous

The younger generation in the program embraces the program with enthusiasm that can only be attributed to the young. And, of course, abstinence is never wasted on anyone, let alone young people whose whole lives are in front of them.

Today a larger percentage of young men and women are flooding recovery units and meeting halls. Although older members may have long abstinence, they are often bested by the eagerness the young devote to working their program.

Many who are new to recovery ask the same question: "What will I do with all my time now that I’ve stopped using?" Young people learn that service work and sober activities with fellow members keep them busy.

I know the future of our program is secure because of the many good young people who are working it.

Today's reading is from the book Easy Does It: A Book of Daily Twelve Step Meditations*

bluidkiti 06-20-2023 05:56 AM

June 20

Each day is a "workshop." Let's remember to keep our minds and hearts open so we won't miss our opportunities.

~Dudley Martineau

Looking at every day as a workshop for more productive or rewarding living eases the dread of new or unfamiliar circumstances. Developing the belief that we will be given exactly what we need to learn will change how we meet every twenty-four hours.

Before recovery we expected life to be hard. Our jobs often felt like drudgery. Our families seldom gave us the affirmation we longed for. Friends were unavailable. What we felt we deserved and sought, we often didn't find. That was then. This is now.

It’s a simple change in perspective to come to believe that we are given what we need from our jobs, our families, our friends, every day. Accepting this belief will influence the outcome of every experience. Our lives will never seem the same.

I paid my dues for today's workshop by committing to recovery. What I will learn is up to me.

Today's reading is from the book A Woman's Spirit: More meditations for Women*

bluidkiti 06-21-2023 06:09 AM

June 21

I go to nature to be soothed and healed, and to have my senses put in order.

~John Burroughs

In the Twelve Steps, we see the term God several times. But from the program's beginning, there have been atheists and agnostics using and valuing the Steps as their guide for life. Many people do not relate to a personal God. They do, however, experience the meaning and spirit of their group and the restoring powers of nature. That is why the founders of Alcoholics Anonymous included the phrase "God as we understood Him."

Whether a personal God is real to us or not, nature is there for us as a healing and refreshing source. We don't have to go on a major trip to the mountains or fishing in the wilderness to find this source. We find it in the sky, the clouds, and the magical moon; we find it in the intricate structure of a leaf, a massive tree in the park, or a wild bird on a window ledge. There is no more clear evidence of the generous gifts that come unbidden than in nature. And we can rest in the Power greater than ourselves shown in creation and the forces of nature.

Today, I will be soothed and healed by nature all around.

Today's reading is from the book Stepping Stones: More Daily Meditations for Men*

bluidkiti 06-22-2023 06:03 AM

June 22

AA Thought for the Day

Alcoholics are unable or unwilling, during their addiction to alcohol, to live in the present. The result is that they live in a constant state of remorse and fear because of their unholy past and its morbid attraction, or the uncertain future and its vague forebodings. So the only real hope for the alcoholic is to face the present. Now is the time. Now is ours. The past is beyond recall. The future is as uncertain as life itself. Only the now belongs to us. Am I living in the now?
Meditation for the Day

I must forget the past as much as possible. The past is over and gone forever. Nothing can be done about the past, except to make what restitution I can. I must not carry the burden of my past failures. I must go on in faith. The clouds will clear and the way will lighten. The path will become less stony with every forward step I take. God has no reproach for anything that He has healed. I can be made whole and free, even though I have wrecked my life in the past. Remember the saying: "Neither do I condemn thee; go and sin no more."
Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may not carry the burden of the past. I pray that I may cast it off and press on in faith.

Today's reading is from the book Twenty-Four Hours a Day: A Spiritual Resource with Practical Applications for Daily Life*

bluidkiti 06-23-2023 05:45 AM

June 23

Let us open our natures, throw wide the doors of our hearts and let in the sunshine of good will and kindness.

~Orison Swett Marden

Kindness is among the gifts we can most easily spread among others. The more we give of kind words and deeds, the more we discover that kindness is like a burning candle which lights many other candles without losing a trace of its own brightness. Our kindnesses are assets which return unexpected dividends when we invest them in the happiness of others. Kindness is the very basis of love. It softens the most severe anger and gladdens the hardest hearts.

No kindness is too small to win and hold the affection of others because it is made up of gentleness, love, generosity, unselfishness, and caring.

What kindness do I have to offer today?

Today's reading is from the book Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families*

bluidkiti 06-24-2023 06:07 AM

June 24

Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.

~Yehuda Berg

The words we choose to use have immense power. We can use words to bring peace to others. We can use words to tell our Higher Power and others how much we care. Or we can use words to hurt others. We can curse them and scare them away. We often did this when we used alcohol and other drugs.

In recovery, we learn to use words in a kind, wise way. We treat words as a gift. We use words to build our relationships.

Do I use words in a kind way? Do I treat words as a powerful gift? Do my words make the world better or worse for those who hear me speak?
Prayer for the Day

Higher Power, when I speak words, help me think about their power. Help me speak to others in a kind way.
Action for the Day

Today I’ll speak to others with respect. My words will add a little kindness, honesty, and love to the world today.

Today's reading is from the book Keep it Simple: Daily Meditations for Twelve Step Beginnings and Renewal*

bluidkiti 06-25-2023 05:21 AM

June 25

As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might.

~Marian Anderson

Because of our resentments, we sometimes get tense. We say we aren't going to have contact with our parents until they do something we expect of them. Or we hold out on a friend because we want an apology for an injury or injustice.

Sadly, we become tenser, more limited in our own joy, by holding someone else to our expectations. Our lives can be much richer and more fulfilled when we let go of these expectations. We can let go of manipulating or drawing forth the responses we want. Our manipulations and pouting make life too boring and limited. No one else need stand in the way of our pleasure of being adult men.

Today, I will let go of my claims on others so I can be free to soar.

Today's reading is from the book Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men*

bluidkiti 06-26-2023 05:59 AM

June 26

Giving it away each day

Talent, heroism, and physical attractiveness. Although society admires such qualities, they don't count much when it comes to our all-important Twelfth Step work. This work draws on all our talents and powers, but in ways that are subtle, warm, and personal.

With the help of our Higher Power, we develop the power to soothe, suggest, endure, and love. The Step Twelve encounters that happen every day are more important than the work of the statesman or hero. Our program exists and grows through the giving of Step Twelve.

Do I give it away each day?

Higher Power, help me to see the joy of being loving and self-sacrificing.

Today I will practice giving by...

Today's reading is from the book Day by Day: Daily Meditations for Recovering Addicts*

bluidkiti 06-27-2023 06:11 AM

June 27

Two Lives in One

I'm surrounded by people in recovery. For eight and a half years now, I've lived this life that is so amazing. I've been given an opportunity to reengage in my sons' lives. In 2020, right before COVID, I got married again. My wife is in recovery too. My oldest son is twenty-eight. My youngest is eighteen and will soon be my middle child, because my wife is currently pregnant with another boy. My wife is twenty-two years younger than me. She also has two kids that she did not raise because of what she went through with her family and addiction.

It's been challenging, but with those challenges come sunshine, hope, and the rainbows we see in our dreams. I love this way of life. I've been given an opportunity to live two lives in one lifetime.

Today I will see my second chance at life - my second chance in recovery.

~Armando S., U.S. Army, 2006–2009

Today's reading is from the book Leave No One Behind: Daily meditations for Military Service Members and Veterans in Recovery*

bluidkiti 06-28-2023 06:07 AM

June 28

Reflection for the Day

"The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image," wrote Thomas Merton. "Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them." As I replace my self-destructive addictions with a healthy dependence on the program and its Twelve Steps, I'm finding that the barriers of silence and hatred are melting away. By accepting each other as we are, we have learned again to love. Do I care enough about others in recovery to continue working with them as long as necessary?
Today I Pray

May I be selfless enough to love people as they are, not as I want them to be, as they mirror my image or feed my ego. May I slow down in my eagerness to love - now that I am capable of feeling love again - and ask myself if I really love someone or only that someone’s idea of me. May I remove the "self" from my loving.
Today I Will Remember

Love is unconditional.

Today's reading is from the book A Day at a Time: Daily Reflections for Recovering People*

bluidkiti 06-29-2023 05:47 AM

June 29

We are much more than our defects.

Having a balanced view of ourselves is one of our goals in recovery. Typically, though, our shortcomings are more obvious than our assets, particularly to others: We're bossy. We're pouty and manipulative. We're shaming. But we have many positive traits too. Fortunately, the Fourth Step asks us to give attention to our whole self, to our assets along with our defects.

Discerning our assets may seem difficult, perhaps because our faults are more glaring. However, acknowledging our strengths is a key to growth. Let's remember yesterday. What did we do that we were proud of? What behavior felt right and pleased others? Taking pen to paper and detailing our positive actions help us recognize who we are in a broader sense. This is all the Fourth Step means. There is no mystery to it. It’s far less difficult than most of us make it. And it's far more rewarding.

Before going to bed I will do a brief inventory of my behavior. Knowing who I really am is important to me.

Today's reading is from the book A Life of My Own: Meditations on Hope and Acceptance*

bluidkiti 06-30-2023 05:32 AM

June 30

A good education is another name for happiness.

~Ann Plato

Most of us think of education as something attained through schools and degree programs. And, in fact, increased self-esteem and courage have opened many of us to possibilities for furthering our formal education. But healing and spiritual growth are the result of another sort of education that is open to all of us each day. Opportunities to awaken our spirits continue throughout life.

The pain we may have suffered in our families and in society, personal traumas, mistakes we have made, things we may wish we’d done differently - we can put all of these experiences to use. Whatever we have suffered can expand our perspective on human life and increase our usefulness to others. Knowledge of life and overcoming obstacles can make us wiser and more compassionate as community members, mentors, lovers, and friends. We know that the education of our hearts, like that of our minds, takes time and study.

Today, I am grateful for all of my experience.

Today's reading is from the book Glad Day


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