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Quote:

What I said never changed anybody;
what they understood did. - Paul. P.

We would do anything to save the people we love. In
our desperation, we imagine that if we say just the
right words in just the right way, our loved ones will
understand. If change happens, we think our efforts
have succeeded. If change doesn't happen, we think
our efforts have failed. But neither is true.

Even our best efforts don't have the power to change
someone else. Nor do we have that responsibility.
People are only persuaded by what they understand.
And they, as we, can understand a deeper truth only
when it is their time to grow, toward deeper understanding
Not before.

From the book: Days of Healing, Days of Joy

Because I detach doesn't mean I don't love. I detach because I do love.

For so many years, I put my life on hold, trying to enlighten the person that I saw as going astray. It was don't do what I did or do, do what I say. I learned my lesson, so listen to me and I will tell you how it was done, so you don't have to go there.

I wasted a lot of years. My son is still using. He is trying to tell me how to live and he is the enlightened one. All I can do is live my life and he will have to make the decision as to when enough is enough, if he every reaches that stage.

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