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MajestyJo · 05-09-2018, 01:47 PM

CONFLICTS WITH THE KIDS? RELAX!

"Family life! The United Nations is child's play compared to the tugs and splits and need to understand and forgive in any family."
-- May Sarton

Faced with a child (or a person of any age, for that matter) who is angry or rebellious? Consider the guidance from Vimala McClure:

"To discover what my child needed, a deep, yielding receptivity was vital. The temptation is to become more and more rigid, but the more you do, the less you understand. When faced with a child who is testing your resolve, relax and yield ....

"As a parent, the frustration of not knowing how to fill a need that cannot be articulated can be overwhelming. Often we direct the rage that stems from that frustration toward the child, which serves to distance us even further, making it impossible for the child to open up to us. To get to this type of receptivity, a practice of conscious relaxation is a must."

"Those who have children can become masters of patience, endurance, and steadfastness, because children will test you at every turn. ...The way to make our children patient and loving is to be that way ourselves."
-- Eknath Easwaran

05-09-2018, 01:47 PM	#216
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,085	CONFLICTS WITH THE KIDS? RELAX! "Family life! The United Nations is child's play compared to the tugs and splits and need to understand and forgive in any family." -- May Sarton Faced with a child (or a person of any age, for that matter) who is angry or rebellious? Consider the guidance from Vimala McClure: "To discover what my child needed, a deep, yielding receptivity was vital. The temptation is to become more and more rigid, but the more you do, the less you understand. When faced with a child who is testing your resolve, relax and yield .... "As a parent, the frustration of not knowing how to fill a need that cannot be articulated can be overwhelming. Often we direct the rage that stems from that frustration toward the child, which serves to distance us even further, making it impossible for the child to open up to us. To get to this type of receptivity, a practice of conscious relaxation is a must." "Those who have children can become masters of patience, endurance, and steadfastness, because children will test you at every turn. ...The way to make our children patient and loving is to be that way ourselves." -- Eknath Easwaran __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.