[MajestyJo]

Love this, it reminds me of a young guy, who was new to recovery. He was very active in our group Freedom of Recovery from the get go. This one day he came up to me and said, "Jo, they didn't notice that I got my hair cut." I said, "For one thing, you normally have your hair in a pony tail, and no one knows how long it is (he had worn it down long because he wanted to show off he new shorn locks), and most of the people here today were not regulars. I am sorry, I didn't realize you had it cut, it looks good. So many times we don't see others because we are so busy looking at ourselves. We worry what people think of us, when in truth they are only worrying about what they look like or occupied with their own worries and troubles to notice others. They think others are looking and talking about them, when in fact they are not being noticed or being gossiped about and it is best unknown. As they say, "The selfish, self-centeredness the nature of our disease, not just the alcoholic and addict, but the family and friends close to them who live with the disease.

As my sponsor said, "What other people think of you is none of your/their business."