April 11
How Codependency Develops
Suppose, as a child, I received positive strokes only when I did something for someone else. Later, when I met you, I discovered you are afraid to drive. I can drive you and this satisfies my need to feel needed. I then get enough positive strokes at work so I no longer have a need to feel needed at home. I fail to realize for years I have been encouraging your dependence on me. The relationship deteriorates when one member undergoes a change and there is no commensurate change in the other. Your self-esteem should not be totally dependent on another's opinion.
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