What works for others, didn't always work for me. I had to adjust it in order for it to fit. It didn't mean the person was wrong or I was right, far from it. We are all individuals and not clones. We need to find our own way, but a path that leads in the same direction as other recovering alcoholics and addicts.
What worked for me, might not work for someone else. I put a lot of work into my recovery and a lot of people I met where not willing to put the energy into it that I did. That doesn't mean they were wrong and I was right, it meant that I was one of the really sick ones. I was fragmented and totally empty, and I needed a lot of spiritual food to fill up on. Religion hadn't prevented me from being an addict (I was put on Valium at 16), and I had to look for a way to incorporate a spiritual walk with my religious beliefs.
