SPEAK FOR YOURSELF
"An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart."
-- David Augsburger
We can easily get into trouble in relationships when we assume that we know what someone else is thinking or feeling. Parents, in particular, can be quick to judge what's going on in their children.
Rather than assuming we know someone else's experience, we could shift our perceptions into questions. Instead of saying, 'I know you're hurting,' we could ask, 'Are you feeling hurt?' This allows us to connect with the other with no risk of misunderstandings.
"It's always wise to raise questions about the most obvious and simple assumptions."
-- C. West Churchman
"To assume is to be deceived."
-- Yiddish proverb
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Love always,
Jo
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